August 24, 2016
SINGLENESS | ON DATING MYSELF.
So it's been a little over a month since I started my season of intentional singleness and I'm, well, I'm okay. I definitely have good days and bad days, but I'm feeling like I've had more good days than bad--which speaks a lot into how I'm doing and growing. In the past, scrolling through my social media feeds were hard. I would see an endless supply of engagement and birth and relationship announcements and with each one I would feel a pang of sadness and jealousy. But as I'm growing and pursuing God, I'm finding that it's okay to want those things but it's not okay to feel bitterness. So I'm choosing to be happy for them and their exciting news and for once, I truly am.
I'm also choosing to date myself. I always hated that phrase, but I think it's important to take care of yourself and dating yourself is a chance to really get to know yourself, love yourself, and treat yourself.
I have yet to go eat out alone or see a movie by myself, but for now, dating myself looks like treating myself to a new top, book, or bouquet of flowers, spending some time window shopping, or taking a bike ride and exploring new areas of my hometown.
No matter what season of life you're in, I am a firm believer in treating yourself--even if it's just spending some time alone. These little "dates" provide me with my introvert alone time to think while also helping me build confidence in trying new things by myself and it's also providing me a chance to love myself by spending a little money and time on me.
I'm not sure what this will look like once the school year starts, but I think it'll be even more important for me to continue with these dates, even if they're shorter in length and have to be scheduled in my planner. Which, oddly enough, makes these dates sound that much more exciting.
So here's to spending a little money, time, and energy on YOU.
How do YOU treat yourself?